I read something tonight that really made me think…this particular quote, specifically.
“Loneliness happens when we choose to lengthen grief beyond normal time expectations.”
As a widow, I am quite familiar with loneliness. In fact, it is something I struggle with daily. I know that I am not alone in this feeling, although feeling alone is the very basis of the emotion. Loneliness can eat away your spirit over time and transform you into a shadow of what you used to be. Caught up in the midst of feeling lonesome, it often feels like there is no way out. And specifically in the case of widows, it can feel like it is something that has been thrust upon you without being given any choice in the matter. I personally struggle with that idea, wondering just how much of my loneliness is circumstantial and how much is my own doing.
What are your thoughts on this quote? Do you feel like those all-too-familiar feelings of loneliness along your grief journey are just ‘par for the course’, or do you think they are created by our own choice to continue the cycle of grief? How do you combat loneliness?
Hugs to all, you are not alone. <3