My newly-introduced widowed friend Cassie over at She Loves You tagged me in this meme. Since I’m never one to shy away from divulging too much information, I’m in. The rules? 1. answer the questions posed, 2. make up 11 more questions, and 3. tag 11 more bloggers to answer them. Maybe I should have read the questions first? Oh well.


1. Do you go out to dinner alone? Concerts? Movies? When you do, do you feel comfortable, or is it awkward?

When I was younger, any of these would have been a death sentence. I was way too insecure in myself to imagine dining alone, or doing anything alone really. When I had to, I would always pipe up that my husband was deployed and ‘of course’ that was why I was by myself. Because you couldn’t be out by yourself and be okay, right? Well, I’ve proven my old self wrong. In the past year or two, I’ve dined alone, gone to movies alone, gone to parties alone, gone to special formal events alone. I haven’t been to a concert alone, though I see it in my near future. I actually find these moments incredibly freeing. In a weird sort of way, I crave them. As a preschooler mom, it’s rare I pee alone, so when I find an opportunity to relish in solitude and reflect on how far I’ve come, I take it.

2. Are you a “picky eater” or a garbage disposal type? Are there any foods you just won’t touch?

In general, I’m not picky. Except for a few random things. In particular, I hate greens and okra (yes I’m from the South, yes, some of us don’t like them *shudder*), I won’t go near raw fish in sushi or not, and I have a weird thing about some textures.

3. Is there something you regret not doing? Why?

Oh man. As a widowed person, I really try hard not to have regrets. Cliche answer, maybe, but it’s the truth. I mean, we can’t play the what-if game with our title. It just opens an ugly can of worms that can’t really be closed, like those exploding snake-in-a-can toys. I’d just rather not go there.

4. Have you ever had “haters” comment on your blog? If so, what did you do? Either way, do you ever worry about readers’ responses to what you write?

I’m pretty lucky I guess in that I’ve only had one ‘hater-ish’ comment the entire time I’ve been blogging, including blogs before this one. It was on this blog, about a year or so ago, and the commenter rudely bashed me for ‘stealing’ someone else’s design. I just laughed about it, because it was obviously a paid-for template from Etsy. I just sweetly pointed out the credit in the footer of the blog and moved along. In general, as far as my writing goes, I don’t worry too much about responses after I’ve posted something. I tend to either write drafts and then change my mind because they are too personal, or just wildly write whatever is on my mind. Either way, once it’s posted I have decided that it’s out there for the world to see, so the world can think whatever it wants. Not going to bother me.

5. If you had to choose, would you live in the middle of the city or the middle of the country?

Ooh that’s tough. It’s something I’ve been thinking about for a years, honestly. I’m drawn to the wild, to the mountains and open fields and untouched nature. But I thrive on drawing energy from the life of a city. Ideally I’d live in the country on the water, within reasonable driving to the city. Best of both. But if I had to choose… nature.

6. If you had to say, do you think you are an introvert or an extrovert? Do you associate “shy” with introverted?

I’m a pretty good mix of both these days, but I’m inherently an introvert and always will be to an extent. Growing up, introverted was synonymous with shy…and not just shy, but painfully shy. I agonized over social situations, anticipated things with dread, poured over conversations wondering what I could have said differently, found reasons to leave social events early, begged out on events I should have gone to. But I was determined to move past that and actually forced myself to be a ‘social butterfly’ type, involved in everything I could be. And it worked. Somewhere along the way, the cocoon of safety I knit tightly around myself fell away and now I soak in the energy of others. I love being social and crave it. But I’ll always balance myself out by needing and relishing in my alone time, too. Sometimes I still get overwhelmed and need a ‘recovery’ minute to myself, but that’s just a quality of the introvert that I embrace.

7. If money wasn’t a concern, what would you do? Quit your day job? Travel? Exactly what you are now?

I would be a travel writer and photographer. My dream job! I mean seriously, travel the world, writing and taking photos? My favorite things all rolled into one. And if I could take my loved ones along with me, I’d be in heaven.

8. Are you a news junkie or are you blissfully unaware of what’s going on until someone mentions it on Facebook or on your favorite blogs?

I’ve never really been a news junkie, but after losing The Hubs I stopped reading/watching the news altogether. I couldn’t take seeing a lot of it. And the habit stuck. So, I’m neutral. Call me Switzerland. I’m quite happy staying out of it all. I don’t follow the news or politics, unless something really grabs me.

9. If you were stranded on an island but could bring music, what album would you bring?

Only one? That would seriously take some thought. Like, a lot more than I have now writing this blog. Music is as essential as water and food. I’ll have to get back to you on that one.

10. What are your thoughts on this new Shades of Gray hype? Have you read it?

Nope, haven’t read it. Don’t plan to either. It just seems like a hyped-up modernized version of a Harlequin. If I want to read erotica, I’ll read some real stuff. ;)

11. How do you feel about plastic surgery? Would you get it? Have you already had some done?

Definitely don’t have any and don’t plan to get any. (Although a tummy-tuck does sound appealing some days ;) ) I don’t agree with it, unless it’s medically necessary for health. Not going to judge anyone who has had it or will get it, to each their own. But it’s not for me. God gave me this body and the ability to manipulate it and care for it. If there is anything aesthetic about it that cannot be changed by proper nutrition and fitness, then it’s not meant to be changed. Looks aren’t that important.


Now, for my 11 questions! Hmm.

  1. What is your #1 bucket list item? Have you done it? Do you think you will?
  2. What would you change about your life right now if you could?
  3. What is one song that always makes you happy?
  4. Do you have any quirky habits?
  5. Where do you see yourself a year from now? 5 years from now?
  6. Tell me about the person you love most in life.
  7. What is your favorite way to spend an evening alone?
  8. What advice would you give to your future self if you had known 10 years ago where you would be in life right now?
  9. Do you believe ‘all you need is love’?
  10. What is your favorite quote?
  11. What are you three best attributes? C’mon, show yourself some love! :)

And I tag…


Thank you so much for doing this! I SWEAR your answers for 7 through 10, especially, could’ve been written by me. Oh, and number 3? WORD.
Also, it’s pretty interesting to contemplate the idea of becoming more extroverted by putting yourself out there. I think that’s been true for me too, to some extent, although, it seems I fall back on the introversion eventually.

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